Marriage

It's been a while since I've been on here. Life gets busy and blogging gets pushed to the bottom of the list of things to do. I will hopefully write an update on our life soon, but for now I have something that has been on my mind.

Marriage. Marriage to me is not only a vow or a commitment. It's a forever promise. You marry someone with all intentions to be with that person forever. I married Brett knowing that he was my other half. My soul mate. My best friend.

As we get older, I see friends, family members, and coworkers marriages ending in divorce. I hear stories of infidelity, lies, and just falling apart and it scares me. If their marriage can't last, how can mine? But one thing those marriages don't have is what mine does. Two individuals who come together as one. Brett and I have vowed our lives to each other. No matter what. We make decisions together. From things as big as buying our house down to as small as where the toothpaste should be in the medicine cabinet. We consult with each other on everything. We make sure that we know how the other feels, what we think. We take an interest in each others hobbies. We make sure that we spend time together, but also apart. Every night before we fall asleep, we kiss each other good night, say "I love you, so much, always and forever, I promise."  It may be cheesy but its our way to reconnect. Its our end to every day and our promise to each other.

I am so lucky and grateful to have married the man that I did. He is such an amazing person. He is working full time, going to school and finishing up getting his real estate license. He does all of this to better our life together. We have plans, some may be a bit extreme....like buying a hunting cabin in Alaska and a downtown loft in New York.....we don't care that they may never be accomplished. But for me, its us planning our future, even if those things might not happen, we are at least planning a future. We are working everyday to better our life and to make sure that we are together, no matter what.

People ask me all the time why I go on the hunting trips. My answer is always the same....I love spending time with my husband. Hunting is something that he loves to do and I want to be there to support him. As long as he wants me there, I will continue going.

Of course we each have quirks that annoy the other. I squeeze the toothpaste tube in the wrong spot and he doesn't use the right towel to dry his hands. The key is to not dwell on those things. To not nag about those things. Every once in a while I remind him to use the hand towel. But I'm not going to focus only on that. There are so many other things that he is amazing at. I have learned to not look as his "manly" habits that annoy me, but to look at all of the things that make him who he is.

(This was taken after being outside for 8 hours.

Not the best picture but its him in his element.)

This Valentines season I want my husband to know how grateful I am for him, for his love, for his willingness to better our lives. I love how happy he makes me. How he makes me feel like no one else matters. He knows how to bring me up on a bad day. He is my best friend, soul mate and my other half.